Hāhānga Tūkino Whanaungatanga

Ko te raru o te hinengaro o te tangata koretake, e kiia ana i etahi wā ko te sociopathy, he āhuatanga o te hauora hinengaro e whakaatu tonu ana te tangata ki te kore whakaaro ki te tika me te he, ā, ka whakakahoretia e ia ngā tika me ngā ngākau o ētahi atu. Ko te hunga e pangia ana e te raru o te hinengaro o te tangata koretake ka whakaaro nui ki te whakapataritari i ētahi atu, ki te whakahaere rānei i ētahi atu, ki te whakahaere kino rānei i ētahi atu, ki te whakaatu rānei i te kore aroha. Kāore rātou e pouri, kāore rātou e whakama ki ō rātou mahi.

Ko te hunga e pangia ana e te raru o te hinengaro o te tangata koretake ka takahia te ture, ka riro hei kaiwhakapae. Ka horoi pea rātou, ka mahi tutu, ka mahi ngāwari, ka pangia e te whakamahinga tarukino me te waipiro. He uaua ki a rātou te whakatutuki tonu i ngā kawenga e pā ana ki te whānau, te mahi, te kura rānei.

Ko ngā tohu o te mate hinengaro kore-hapori e whai ake nei: Te whakakahore tonu i te tika me te he. Te kōrero teka hei whakamahi i ētahi atu. Te kore aroha, te kore whakaute rānei ki ētahi atu. Te whakamahi i te māia, te whakaaro nui rānei hei whakahaere i ētahi atu mō te hua whaiaro, te ngākau koa rānei. Te whai i te whakaaro nui ake me te tino whakaaro nui. Te whai raruraru ki te ture, tae atu ki te mahi hara. Te riri, te tukino, te tutu, te whakawehi rānei ki ētahi atu. Te kore āehe mo te whara i ētahi atu. Te mahi i ngā mea kino me te kore whakaaro ki te ora o a rātou anō, ki ētahi atu rānei. Te kore kawenga me te kore tutuki i ngā kawenga mahi, kāwanatanga rānei. Ko ngā tāngata pakeke e pangia ana e te mate hinengaro kore-hapori e whakaatu ana i ngā tohu o te mate āhua-āhua i mua i te tau 15. Ko ngā tohu o te mate āhua-āhua e whai ake nei: Te tukino ki te tangata me ngā kararehe. Te whakangaro i ngā taonga. Te kōrero teka me te tinihanga. Te tahae. Te takahi nui i ngā ture. Kei te whakaarohia ko te mate hinengaro kore-hapori he āhua ora tonu. Engari i ētahi tāngata, ko ētahi tohu ―inā, ko te mahi whakangaro me te mahi hara ― ka iti haere pea i te wa. Kāo te mārama he hua tēnei o te pānga o te koroheketanga ki o rātou hinengaro me o rātou tinana, te piki ake o te matauranga ki te pānga o te āhua kore-hapori ki o rātou oranga, ētahi atu take rānei. Kāore ngā tāngata e pangia ana e te mate hinengaro kore-hapori e ngāwari ana ki te rapu awhina. Ki te whakaaro koe kei te pangia tētahi hoa, whānau rānei e te mate, āta whakaaro ai koe ki te tono atu ki te tangata kia rapu awhina i tētahi kaiwhakarato hauora hinengaro, ā, āwhina atu ki a rātou ki te kimi i tētahi.

Ehara ngā tāngata e whai ana i te mate hinengaro o te ngākau kore aroha ki te kimi awhina mō rātou anō. Ki te whakaaro koe kei te mate pea tētahi hoa, whānau rānei, āta whakaaro koe ki te tono kia rapu awhina ia i tētahi kaituku hauora hinengaro, ā, āwhina ia ki te kimi i tētahi.

Ko te hinengaro te whakakotahitanga o ngā whakaaro, ngā āhua, me ngā whāinga e whakamahi ana i te tangata kia motuhake. Ko te āhua o te tangata te titiro, te mārama me te hono atu ki te ao o waho, me te āhua o te titiro ki a rātou anō. Ka hanga te hinengaro i te wā tamariki. He mea whakatūpato pea e ngā ira kua oti te whakararangi, me ngā āhuatanga o te ora me ngā wheako.

Kāore i te mōhiotia te take tino take o te mate hinengaro anti-social, engari:

• Ka taea e ngā ira te whakawehi i a koe ki te whanake i te mate hinengaro anti-social—me ngā āhuatanga o te ora, ina koa te whakahawea me te tukino, ka taea te whakaoho i tōna whanaketanga.
• Ka taea pea te puta mai o ngā huringa i te huarahi mahi o te roro i te wā o te whanaketanga o te roro.

Ko ētahi take e āhei ana te whakapiki ake i te tūponotanga o te whanaketanga o te mate hinengaro kore-hapori, pēnei i te:

• Te tautuhi i te mate āhua kino o te tamarikitanga.
• Te hītori whānau o te mate hinengaro kore-hapori, te mate hinengaro rerekē atu rānei, te āhuatanga hauora hinengaro rānei.
• Te whāngainga i te tukino, te whakarahi rānei i te tamarikitanga.
• Te ora whānau kore-āhua, te tutu rānei i te tamarikitanga.

Nui atu te tūponotanga o ngā tāne ki te mate hinengaro kore-hapori i ngā wāhine.

Ko ngā raruraru me ngā āhuatanga e puta mai ana i te mate hinengaro koretake pea ko: Te tukino i te hoa marena, te tamariki rānei, te whakahawea rānei ki a rātou. Ngā raruraru me te waipiro, te raau taero rānei. Te whakapaunga i te whare herehere. Te whakamātautau ki te whakamomori, te patu rānei i tetahi atu. Te whai i ētahi atu āhuatanga hauora hinengaro, pēnei i te pouri, te manukanuka rānei. Ngā raruraru putea, mātauranga, pāpori rānei. Te mate wawe, te tikanga nā te tutu.

Kāore he huarahi tino whakapono hei ārai i te whanaketanga o te mate hinengaro kore-hapori ki te hunga kei te tūpono. Nō te mea e whakaarohia ana he pūtake mai i te tamarikitanga te whāinga kino, ka taea pea e ngā mātua, ngā kaiako, me ngā tākua tamariki te kite i ngā tohu whakatūpato wawe. Ka āhei pea te awhina te ngana ki te tohu i te hunga tino tūpono, pēnei i ngā tamariki e whakaatu ana i ngā tohu o te mate kino, katahi ka tukuna he whakaorangotanga wawe.

E kore pea te hunga e pangia ana e te mate hinengaro koretake e whakaatu tika i ō rātou tohu. Ko te take matua mō te whakatau i te mate ko te āhua o te hononga o te tangata ki ētahi atu. Mā te whakaaetanga, ka taea pea e te whānau me ngā hoa te tuku i ngā korero whai hua.

Whai muri i te whakamātau hauora hei awhina i te whakakore i ētahi atu āhuatanga hauora, ka taea pea e te kaiwhakarato hauora te tuku atu ki te kaiwhakarato hauora hinengaro he wheako ki te whakatau me te whakaora i te mate hinengaro koretake.

Ko te tikanga ka whakawhirinaki te whakatau i te mate hinengaro koretake ki:

• Te whakamātau hauora hinengaro e whakauru ana i te kōrero mō ngā whakaaro, ngā hiahia, ngā whanaungatanga, ngā āhua whanonga me te hītori whānau.
• Tohu.
• Hītori whaiaro me te hauora.

Ehara i te mea e whakatauhia ana te mate hinengaro koretake i mua i te 18 o ō rātou tau. Engari ka puta pea etahi tohu i te tamarikitanga, i ngā tau tīmatanga rānei o te tauira.

Ka taea pea te whakapai ake i ngā hua roa mā te kite wawe i te mate hinengaro koretake.

He uaua te rongoā i te mate hinengaro koretake, engari mo etahi atu, ka āwhina pea te rongoā me te whai i te roa. Rapua ngā kaiwhakarato hauora me ngā kaiwhakarato hauora hinengaro he wheako ki te rongoā i te mate hinengaro koretake.

Ko te rongoā e whakawhirinaki ana ki ia tūāhua, tō rātou hiahia ki te whai wāhi ki te rongoā me te kaha o ō rātou tohu.

Ka whakamahia pea te korerorero, e kiia ana hoki ko te rongoā hinengaro, hei rongoā i te mate hinengaro koretake. Kei roto pea i te rongoā, hei tauira, te whakahaere i te riri me te tutu, te rongoā mō ngā raruraru me te waipiro, me te rongoā mō ētahi atu āhuatanga hauora hinengaro.

Engari ehara i te mea ka whai hua tonu te korerorero, ina koa ki te kaha o ngā tohu, ā, kāore e taea e te tangata te whakaae kei te whai wāhi rātou ki ngā raruraru nui.

Ka mahi kino ngā tāngata he mate hinengaro koretake, ā, ka mate ētahi atu—kāore he pouri. Ki te pēnei koe i tetahi e arohaina ana e koe he mate hinengaro koretake, he mea nui kia whiwhi koe i te awhina mō koe anō.

Ka taea e te kaiwhakarato hauora hinengaro te whakaako i a koe ki ngā pūkenga hei ako me pēhea te whakatū i ngā rohe me te tiaki i a koe anō i te tukino, te tutu me te riri e noho tahi ana ki te mate hinengaro koretake. Ka taea hoki e te kaiwhakarato te tūtohu i ngā rautaki hei whakahaere.

Rapua tētahi kaiwhakarato hauora hinengaro he whakangungu me te wheako ki te whakahaere i te mate hinengaro koretake. Pātai atu ki te kaiwhakarato hauora o te tangata e arohaina ana e koe mō te tohutoro. Ka taea pea e te kaiwhakarato te tūtohu i ngā rōpū tautoko mō ngā whānau me ngā hoa e pā ana ki te mate hinengaro koretake.

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