Created at:1/16/2025
Ko te pouaru i muri i te whānautanga he momo pouaru nui e pā ana ki ngā whaea i muri i te whānautanga, e nui atu i te 'ngā pōuri o te pēpi' noa. Ko te āhuatanga nei e whakaatu ana i ngā āwangawanga mau tonu o te pouri, te manukanuka, me te ngenge e whakaroa ana i tō oranga o ia rā me tō kaha ki te tiaki i a koe me tō pēpi.
Kāore i rite ki ngā huringa ngāwari o te ngākau e pā ana ki te nuinga o ngā whaea hou i roto i ngā wiki tuatahi i muri i te whānautanga, he kaha ake te pouaru i muri i te whānautanga, ā, he roa ake te roa. Ka taea te whanake i te wa o te hapu tae noa ki te tau i muri i te whānautanga, ā, e pā ana ki te 10-20% o ngā whaea hou.
Ko te pouaru i muri i te whānautanga he wāhanga pouri nui e puta ana i muri i te whānautanga o te pēpi. He āhuatanga hauora pono tēnei e pā ana ki te matū o tō roro, ngā kare-a-roto, me te oranga tinana i te wa e puta mai ana tētahi huringa nui o te oranga.
Kāore tēnei i te mea i puta mai i a koe, kāore rānei e taea te aukati mā te kaha o te ngākau anake. Kei te whakaritea tō roro ki ngā huringa nui o te homoni i te wā e whakahaerehia ana e koe te moe kore, te ora tinana, me te kawenga nui o te tiaki i te pēpi hou.
Ka taea e te āhuatanga te whakaiti i tō hononga ki tō pēpi, te nui o ngā mahi o ia rā, te kore rānei koe e rite ki te whaea i whakaaro koe ka waiho koe. Ko ēnei āwangawanga he tohu o te āhuatanga hauora e taea te rongoā, ehara i te whakaata o tō uara hei mātua.
He kaha ake, he roa ake ngā tohu o te pouaru i muri i te whānautanga i te ngenge noa o te mātua hou. Ka taea e koe te kite i ēnei huringa i te āhua o tō ngākau, o tō whakaaro, o tō whāinga rānei, ā, ko te mohiotanga ki a rātou ko te kaupae tuatahi ki te tiki awhina.
Ko ngā tohu ngākau e whakaatu pinei:
Ka puta mai pea ngā huringa tinana me ngā huringa whāinga, pēnei i te uaua ki te moe ahakoa kei te moe tō pēpi, ngā huringa i te hiahia kai, te uaua ki te aro, te peka atu rānei i te whānau me ngā hoa. Ka pāngia pea koe e ngā tohu tinana pēnei i te mamae o te mahunga, ngā raruraru o te kopu, te mamae rānei o ngā uaua.
I etahi wā, ka whanake etahi whaea i te mate hinengaro o muri i te whanautanga, e uru ana ki te kite whakaata, te whakapono teka, te whakaaro rānei ki te whara i te pepe. He mate whakapouri tenei e hiahia ana ki te awhina tere a nga tohunga.
Kei te taha o te whānuitanga o ngā huringa ngākau e puta ai i muri i te whanautanga te pouri o muri i te whanautanga. Ka taea e te mārama ki ēnei momo rerekē te awhina i a koe ki te mohio ki te mea kei te pāngia koe, me te wā ki te rapu tautoko.
Ka pā te pouri iti ki te 80% o ngā whaea hou, ā, ka tīmata i roto i ngā rā tuatahi i muri i te whānautanga. Ka raru pea koe, ka pouri, ka manukanuka rānei, engari ka mutu ngā kare-a-roto nei i roto i ngā wiki rua kaore he rongoā.
He nui ake te kino me te roa o te pouri o muri i te whanautanga i te pouri iti. Ka tīmata pea i te wā hapu, i tetahi wā rānei i roto i te tau tuatahi i muri i te whānautanga, ka pā ki tō kaha ki te mahi i te oranga o ia rā me te tiaki i a koe me tō pēpi.
Ka puta mai pea te manukanuka o muri i te whanautanga me te pouri, i te motu rānei. Ka pāngia pea koe e ngā whakaaro tere, te manukanuka tonu rānei mo te ora o tō pēpi, i ngā tohu tinana pēnei i te tere o te ngakau me te poto o te manawa.
Ko te mate hinengaro whai whānau te tino pēhanga engari te tino kino, e pā ana ki te 1-2 o ia 1,000 o ngā whaea hou. Ko te āhuatanga nei te ngaro o te hononga ki te tūturu me te hiahia tonu ki te tiaki hauora na te tūponotanga o te kino ki te whaea me te pēpi.
Ka puta mai te pouri whai whānau i te whakaranu uaua o ngā take tinana, ngā kare-a-roto, me ngā āhuatanga oranga e huihui ana i te wā ngoikore i muri i te whānautanga. Kāhore he take kotahi e hanga ai tēnei āhuatanga, koia te take ka taea te pā ki tetahi whaea hou ahakoa tōna āhuatanga.
He tino mahi ngā huringa homoni ki te pouri whai whānau. I muri i te whānautanga, ka heke haere te taumata o ō estrogen me progesterone i roto i ngā haora, i te wā ka taea hoki te heke o te taumata o ō homoni tairoirī. Ka taea e ēnei huringa tere te whakaoho i ngā tohu ngākau pouri ki ētahi wāhine.
He maha ngā take morearea ka taea te whakapiki ake i tō tūponotanga ki te whanake i te pouri whai whānau:
Ka taea hoki te whakauru mai e ngā take tinana pēnei i te kore moe, te mamae tinana mai i te whānautanga, me ngā huringa oranga nui e haere mai ana me te pēpi hou. Ahakoa ngā huringa oranga pai, ka taea te whakapēhi, ā, ko te noho hei mātua te whakatika i tō tuakiri katoa me tō mahi o ia rā.
I roto i ngā take onge, ka taea e ētahi āhuatanga hauora te whakauru ki te pouri whai whānau, tae atu ki ngā mate tairoirī, te mate huka, ngā āhuatanga autoimmune rānei ka taea te whakaoho, te kino rānei e te haputanga me te whānautanga.
Me whakapiri atu koe ki te awhina ngaio ki te āwangawanga ngā tohu i tō oranga o ia rā, i te roa atu i te rua wiki i muri i te whānau. He tokomaha ngā whaea hou e whakaroa ana ki te rapu awhina, engari ko te mohio ki te wā e hiahia ana koe ki te tautoko, he tohu tēnā o te kaha me te whāngai pai.
Whakapa atu ki tō kaiwhakarato hauora inaianei ka whai whakaaro koe ki te whara i a koe ano, i tō pēpi rānei, kei te wheako koe i ngā whakairoiro, i ngā whakaaro rānei, kei te kore rānei e taea te tiaki i a koe ano, i tō tamaiti iti rānei. Ko ēnei ngā tohu e hiahia ana ki te tiaki hauora tonu.
Ko ētahi atu wā nui hei rapu awhina ko te kore e taea e koe te moe ahakoa kei te moe tō pēpi, kei te karo koe i ngā hoa me te whānau katoa, kei te kore rānei koe e hono atu, e aroha atu rānei ki tō pēpi i muri i ngā wiki.
Kaua e tatari kia kaha rawa ngā tohu i mua i te whakapiri atu. Ko te maimoatanga wawe te nuinga o te wā e arahina ana ki ngā hua pai ake, ā, ka taea te aukati i te āhuatanga kia kino ake, kia pāngia rānei tō hononga ki tō pēpi.
Ko te mārama ki ō take pāngarau ka taea te āwhina i a koe me tō rōpū hauora ki te mataara i ngā tohu wawe o te pounamu whai-whakawhānau. Ko te whai i ngā take pāngarau ehara i te tikanga ka whanake koe i te āhuatanga, engari ka taea te ārahi i ngā rautaki aukati me te whakauru wawe.
Ko ngā take whakapapa me te whānau e piki ai tō morearea ko:
Ka taea hoki e ngā take e pā ana ki te hapu me te whānau te mahi. Kei roto i ēnei ngā raruraru i te wā hapu, i te whānau rānei, te whānau wawe, te whai i ngā maha (tokorua, torutoru), te whai rānei i te pēpi e whai mate hauora ana, e whai hiahia motuhake ana rānei.
He mea nui hoki ngā take pāpori me te taiao. Ko te kore o te tautoko mai i te hoa, te motu wairua, te raruraru putea, te haputanga kāore i whakamaheretia, te rerekētanga nui o te ora i te wā o te whānautanga, ka taea e ēnei katoa te whakapiki ake i tō tūponotanga.
Ka taea hoki e ētahi mate hauora onge te whakauru, pēnei i ngā mate thyroid, te mate huka, te hītori o te mate bipolar. Ki te whai koe i tētahi o ēnei āhuatanga, ka āta tirotirohia pea koe e tō kaiwhakarato hauora i te wā o te haputanga me muri iho.
Ka pā te pounamu whai muri i te whānautanga ki a koe me te oranga o tō pēpi i ngā huarahi maha. Kāore te mōhiotanga ki ēnei raruraru pea hei whakawehi i a koe, engari hei whakamārama i te take he mea nui te rapu i te rongoā mō te hauora o tō whānau.
Mō ngā māmā, ka uru ngā raruraru ki te mau tonu te pounamu, ki te kaha ake rānei i te wā. Ka taea hoki e koe te whanake i ngā mate manukanuka, te uaua ki te hono atu ki ngā tamariki kei te heke mai, te raruraru rānei i roto i tō whānau me tō hoa.
Ka pā te āhuatanga ki te whanaketanga o tō pēpi i ngā huarahi maha:
Ka taea hoki te pānga ki ngā whānau ina kore e rongoā te pounamu whai muri i te whānautanga. Ka raru pea ngā hoa, a, ka kore pea ētahi atu tamariki o te whānau e whiwhi i te aroha e hiahiatia ana e rātou i tēnei wā uaua.
I roto i ngā take onge engari nui, ka taea e te pounamu whai muri i te whānautanga te arahi ki ngā whakaaro mo te whara i a koe ano, te whakamomori rānei. Koia te take he mea nui te awhina ngaio tonu ki te whai koe i ētahi whakaaro mo te whara i a koe ano, i tō pēpi rānei.
Ahakoa kaore e taea te aukati katoa i te pounamu whai whānau, he maha ngā mahi ka taea e koe i te wā hapu me muri i te whānau tamariki hei whakaiti i tō tūponotanga. Ka arotahi ēnei rautaki ki te hanga i ngā pūnaha tautoko me te pupuri i tō hauora hinengaro i tēnei wā ngoikore.
I te wā hapu, whakaarohia te kōrero ki tetahi kaiāwhina rānei, kaiwhakaora rānei, ina koa ki te pēnei koe i te pounamu. Ko te hanga i ngā pūkenga whakahaere i mua i te taenga mai o tō pēpi ka āhei te awhina i a koe ki te whakahaere pai i ngā wero o te whānautanga hou.
He mea nui te hanga i tetahi whatunga tautoko kaha. I roto pea i ēnei ngā mema whānau, ngā hoa, ētahi mātua hou, rānei ngā rōpū tautoko ngaio. Kaua e whakaroa ki te tono awhina mō ngā mahi kāinga, kai, rānei tiaki tamariki i ngā marama tuatahi.
Ko te tiaki i tō hauora tinana ka āhei hoki te tiaki i tō hauora hinengaro. Whakamātauria te kai i ngā kai kai ora, whiwhi i ētahi hau hou me te whakakori mama i te wā e taea ana, me te okioki i te wā e taea ana ahakoa ehara i te pō.
Ki te mea kei te nui tō tūponotanga ki te pounamu whai whānau, ka tūtohu pea tō kaiwhakarato hauora i ngā maimoatanga aukati pēnei i te tohutohu i te wā hapu, rānei ngā rongoā e ora ana i te wā whakū.
Ko te whakatau i te pounamu whai whānau e pā ana ki te aromatawai whānui e tetahi tohunga hauora, ka aromatawaihia ō tohu, hītori hauora, me ngā āhuatanga o te ora o nāianei. Kāore he whakamātautau kotahi mō te āhuatanga, engari ka whakamahi ngā tākuta i ngā paerewa kua whakatūria hei whakatutuki i te whakatau tika.
Ka tīmata pea tō kaiwhakarato hauora me te kōrero taipitopito mō ō tohu, tae atu ki te wā i tīmata ai, te kaha o te āwangawanga, me te āhua o te pānga ki tō oranga o ia rā. Ka whakamahi pea rātou i ngā patai whakarite pēnei i te Paerewa Pounamu Whai Whānau o Edinburgh hei awhina i te aromatawai i tō āhuatanga.
Ka taea te whakahaere i te whakamātautau tinana me ngā whakamātautau toto hei whakakore i ētahi atu āhuatanga ka puta mai ngā tohu rite, pēnei i ngā mate thyroid, i te mate toto iti rānei. He maha ake ngā mate hauora nei i muri i te whānautanga, ā, ka taea e rātou te whakaahua, te whakauru rānei ki te pouri.
Ka ui atu hoki tō tākuta ki ōu hītori whaiaro me te whānau o ngā āhuatanga hauora hinengaro, ōu wheako haputanga me te whānautanga, me tō pūnaha tautoko o nāianei. Ka āwhina ēnei kōrero i a rātou ki te mōhio ki ō kaupapa morearea takitahi me te whakawhanake i te mahere maimoatanga pai rawa atu.
He mahi tahi te tukanga whakatau, arā, ka mahi tahi tō kaiwhakarato hauora ki a koe hei mārama ki ō wheako me ō awangawanga. Ko te pono ki ō tohu, ahakoa he wehi, he whakama rānei, ka āwhina i te whakarite kia whiwhi koe i te tiaki pai rawa atu.
He tino whai hua te maimoatanga mō te pouri whai muri i te whānautanga, ā, ka kite te nuinga o ngā wāhine i te whakapainga nui me te whakakotahitanga tika o ngā tikanga whakaora. Ka mahi tahi tō kaiwhakarato hauora ki a koe hei whakawhanake i te mahere maimoatanga whaiaro e whakaū ana ki ō tohu, ki ō hiahia, me ō āhuatanga.
Ka taea te whakamahi i te rongoā hinengaro, inā te rongoā whāinga-ā-mahinga (CBT) me te rongoā whanaungatanga, hei āwhina nui mō te pouri whai muri i te whānautanga. Ka whakaako ēnei huarahi i a koe ki ngā rautaki whakahaere, ka āwhina i a koe ki te tukatuka i ngā huringa i roto i tō oranga, me te whakatika i ngā tauira whakaaro kino ka āwhina pea ki tō pouri.
Ko ngā whiringa rongoā kei roto ngā rongoā pouri e whakaarohia ana he haumaru i te wā e whāngai u rā. Ka whakarite te tākuta i ngā painga me ngā morearea o ngā rongoā rerekē e whakaū ana ki tō āhuatanga motuhake me ō hiahia whāngai.
Ka taea e ngā rōpū tautoko, ahakoa i te tangata, i te ipurangi rānei, te whakarato i te hononga nui ki ētahi atu whaea e mārama ana ki te mea e pā ana koe. He maha ngā wāhine e kite ana he āwhina te whakawhiti wheako me ngā rautaki whakahaere ki ētahi atu kua pāngia e ngā wero rite.
I roto i ngā take kino rānei, ā, ki te kore e whai hua ētahi atu rongoā, ko ētahi atu whiringa pea ko:
Ko te nuinga o te whakaora ka whakakotahi i ngā huarahi maha, ā, pea ka roa te wā ki te kimi i te whakakotahitanga tika e pai ana mōu. Ko te mea nui ko te tīmatanga o te whakaora i te wa e taea ai, me te pupuri tonu i te whakawhitiwhiti korero me tō rōpū hauora.
Ahakoa he mea nui te whakaora ngaio mō te pou-whānau pouri, he maha ngā mea ka taea e koe ki te kāinga hei tautoko i tō whakaora me te whakapai ake i tō oranga pai o ia rā. Ko ēnei rautaki tiaki-whaiaro ka pai ake te mahi ina whakakotahitia ki te whakaora ngaio, ehara i te whakakapi mōna.
Ko te whakarite i te okioki i ngā wā katoa e taea ana he mea nui mō te whakaora o tō hauora hinengaro. Whakamātauria te moe i te wā e moe ana tō pēpi, ahakoa he wā poto noa i te rā. Hokona te āwhina mai i ētahi atu kia taea ai e koe te aro ki te okioki me te hono atu ki tō pēpi.
Ka taea e te mahi tinana ngawari te whakapai ake i tō ngākau me ō taumata kaha. Tīmatahia ki ngā hikoi poto i waho, te whakatete whakamaarama, te yoga whai muri i te whānau ina whakaaetia koe e tō tākuta ki te whakakori tinana. Āe rawa atu te 10-15 meneti o te nekehanga ka puta he rerekētanga i tō ngākau.
He mea nui te kai i te whakaora hauora hinengaro. Whakamātauria te kai i ngā kai rite, rite tonu ahakoa kaore koe e hiahia kai. Pātai atu ki ngā mema whānau, ki ngā hoa rānei hei āwhina i te whakarite kai, ki te whakaaro rānei ki ngā ratonga tuku kai i te wā o tō whakaora.
Noho hono atu ki ngā tāngata tautoko i roto i tō oranga, ahakoa kaore koe e hiahia ki te pārekareka. Pea ko te tikanga tenei o te whakaae ki ngā manuhiri, te uru atu ki tētahi rōpū mātua hou, te kōrero noa rānei i te waea ki tētahi hoa whakawhirinaki, ki tētahi mema whānau rānei.
Hangaia ngā tumanakohanga pono mōu ake, me tō mahi o ia rā. Kāo ia he raruraru mēi kore e tino pai te whare, kāore rānei e whakapau i te rā i roto i ngā piha moe. Aro atu ki ngā hiahia whānau, pēnei i te whāngai i a koe me tō pēpi, ā, whakanuihia ngā mahi iti.
Ko te whakarite mō tō whakatau ki te taakuta ka āhei te awhina i a koe ki te whiwhi i te hua nui rawa atu i tō haerenga, ā, kia whakarite hoki kei a tō kaiwhakarato hauora ngā mōhiohio katoa e hiahiatia ana hei āwhina i a koe. Ko te tango i ētahi kaupae i mua i te wā ka taea te whakapai ake i te kōrero kia hua ake, ā, kia iti ake te āwangawanga.
Tuhia ngā tohu o ou mate i mua i te whakatau, tae atu ki te wā i tīmata ai, te auau o te puta mai, me te āhua o te pānga ki tō oranga o ia rā. Tāpirihia ngā tohu ngākau pēnei i te pouri, te manukanuka, me ngā tohu tinana pēnei i ngā raruraru moe, te rerekētanga o te hiahia kai.
Mau mai he rārangi o ngā rongoā me ngā taapiri katoa e inu ana koe i tēnei wā, tae atu ki ētahi i inu i te wā hapu. Tākina hoki ngā maimoatanga o mua mō te pouri, te manukanuka rānei, me te whai hua rānei.
Whakaarohia te kawe mai i tētahi mema whānau whakawhirinaki, hoa rānei ki te whakatau hei tautoko, hei awhina hoki ki te maumahara ki ngā mōhiohio nui. Ka taea hoki e rātou te whakarato i tētahi tirohanga atu ki te āhua o te pānga o ō tohu ki a koe me tō whānau.
Whakaritea ngā pātai hei ui ki tō kaiwhakarato hauora, pēnei i ngā whiringa maimoatanga, ngā mea e tumanakohia ana i te wā whakaora, te āhua o te pānga o te maimoatanga ki te whāngai u, me te wā ka tīmata ai koe ki te pai ake. Tuhia ēnei kia kaua e wareware i te wā o te whakatau.
Kia rite ki te kōrero mō tō pūnaha tautoko, tae atu ki te hunga ka taea te awhina i te tiaki tamariki, ngā mahi o te whare, me te tautoko ngākau i te wā o tō maimoatanga. Ko ēnei mōhiohio ka āwhina i tō kaiwhakarato hauora ki te mārama ki ō rauemi, ki te whakarite hoki i ngā tūtohu tika.
Ko te mea nui rawa atu hei mārama mō te pounamu o muri i te whānautanga ko te mate hauora noa, ā, ka taea te whakaora, e pā ana ki te maha o ngā whaea aroha, kaha. Ki te whai koe i te pounamu o muri i te whānautanga, ehara tena i te kī he ngoikore koe, he kore mahi koe hei whaea, kāore rānei he mea he i roto i a koe.
Ehara i te mea ka taea te ora ake, engari e tumanakohia ana me te rongoā tika me te tautoko. Ko te nuinga o ngā wāhine e whiwhi ana i te tiaki tika ka kite i te whakapai ake nui o ō rātou tohu, ā, ka haere tonu ki te ngākau nui ki ō rātou tamariki me ō rātou whānau.
Ko te rapu awhina i te tīmatanga tētahi o ngā mea pai rawa atu ka taea e koe te mahi māu ake me tō pēpi. Ehara te rongoā mō te pounamu o muri i te whānautanga i te mea hei whakapai ake i ōu ngākau, engari hei whakarite kia taea e koe te matua e hiahia ana koe ki te waiho, ā, ka whiwhi tō pēpi i te tiaki atawhai e hiahia ana rātou.
Kia mahara ko te tono awhina he tohu o te kaha me te whāngai pai, ehara i te ngoikore. E tika ana kia tautokohia koe i tēnei wā wero, ā, he maha ngā rongoā whai hua kei te wātea hei āwhina i a koe kia rite ki a koe anō.
Kahore he rongoā, ka roa pea te pounamu o muri i te whānautanga mō ngā marama, ā, tae noa ki ngā tau, ā, ka puta pea hei mate roa. Heoi, me te awhina tika a ngā tohunga, ka kite te nuinga o ngā wāhine i te whakapai ake nui i roto i ngā wiki 6-8 i te tīmatanga o te rongoā. Ko te tere o te rapu awhina, ko te tere o tō ora ake.
Ka taea e te pounamu o muri i te whānautanga te whakawhāiti i te whāngai u, nā te iti o te kaha, te uaua ki te hono, te kore rānei o te whakaohooho. Heoi, he maha ngā wāhine e whai ana i te pounamu o muri i te whānautanga e whāngai u ana, ā, ko te nuinga o ngā rongoā e hototahi ana ki te whakangā. Ka taea e tō kaiwhakarato hauora te āwhina i a koe ki te kimi i ngā kōwhiringa rongoā haumaru e tautoko ana i ō whāinga whāngai.
Ko te whāinga o te pouaru i muri i te whānautanga ka piki ake te tūponotanga mō ngā wāhanga e whai ake nei, ā, ko te 20-25% o ngā wāhine ka pā atu anō. Heoi, ko te tikanga hoki tenei, ko te 75-80% o ngā wāhine kaore e pā atu ki ngā haputanga e whai ake nei. Ka taea e tō kaiwhakarato hauora te āwhina i a koe ki te whakawhanake i te mahere aukati mō ngā haputanga e whai ake nei.
Ae, ka taea e ngā hoa rangatira me ngā matua te whiwhi pouaru o te matua i muri i te whānautanga, ā, ko te 10% o ngā matua hou ka pā atu. Ka taea hoki e ngā hoa te whanake i te pouaru hei whakautu ki te pouaru o tō rātou hoa i muri i te whānautanga. He mea nui mō ngā mātua e rua te rapu awhina mena kei te whawhai rātou ki ngā huringa ngākau i muri i te taenga mai o te pēpi.
He maha ngā rongoā pouaru e whakaarohia ana he haumaru te whakamahi i te wā e whāngai u ana, ā, he iti noa te nui e pā atu ana ki te waiū u. Ka tīpako tika tō kaiwhakarato hauora i ngā rongoā i runga i ngā raraunga haumaru me tō āhuatanga motuhake. Ko te hua o te whakaora i tō pouaru e nui atu ana i ngā tūponotanga iti e pā ana ki te rongoā i te wā e whāngai u ana.