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Ese ni ukurira gukomeye, kutumvikana mu bana bazima, bisanzwe bitangira hagati y’ibyumweru 2-3. Umwana wawe ashobora kurira amasaha menshi, akenshi ku gicamunsi cyangwa nimugoroba, bikakugora cyane.
Iki kibazo kiba ku bana bagera kuri 1 kuri 5, kikagera ku rwego rwo hejuru ku cyumweru cya 6, hanyuma kigakira buhoro buhoro mu mezi 3-4. Nubwo ese ishobora kuba ikibazo gikomeye ku babyeyi, ni ingenzi kumenya ko abana bafite ese ntabwo bari mu kaga, kandi bazakira.
Ese isobanurwa nk’ukurira iminota irenga 3 ku munsi, imisi irenga 3 mu cyumweru, ibyumweru birenga 3, ku mwana muzima. Iyi ‘ntegeko y’abitatu’ ifasha abaganga gutandukanya ese n’ukurira bisanzwe kw’abana.
Mu gihe cy’ese, umwana wawe ashobora kugaragara nk’utahumurizwa nubwo wakora ibishoboka byose kugira ngo umuhumurize. Ukurira kenshi kuba ku isaha imwe buri munsi, akenshi nimugoroba, igihe wamenyereye kunanirwa.
Icyateza imbogamizi mu ese ni uko ukurira kugaragara nta mpamvu isobanutse. Umwana wawe nta nzara afite, ntabwo yanduye, cyangwa arwaye-ariko arakurira cyane igihe kirekire.
Kumenya ibimenyetso by’ese bishobora kugufasha kumva ibyo umwana wawe anyuramo, n’igihe wakwishakira ubufasha. Ibimenyetso by’ingenzi birenga uburyo busanzwe bwo kurira kw’abana.
Ibi bimenyetso bisanzwe bitangira ku myaka 2-3, bikaba byakomeza kugera ku mezi 3-4. Ibuka ko buri mwana atandukanye, bamwe bagaragaza ibimenyetso bito, abandi bagaragaza ibibazo bikomeye.
Impamvu nyamukuru y’ese ntirazwi, ariko abashakashatsi bemeza ko iterwa n’ibintu byinshi aho kuba impamvu imwe. Kumenya ibi bintu bishobora kugufasha kumva ko utari wenyine muri iki kibazo.
Dore impamvu zikunze kuvugwa:
Hariho ibindi bintu bitoroshye, birimo indwara nk’ibibazo by’inda cyangwa indwara zandura, nubwo bidafata abana bafite ese.
Ukwiye kuvugana na muganga wawe niba ukurira kw’umwana wawe kugaragara cyane, cyangwa niba ubona ibimenyetso by’uburwayi. Nubwo ese ubwayo atari ikibazo gikomeye, ni ingenzi gukuraho izindi ndwara.
Hamagara muganga wawe ako kanya niba umwana wawe agaragaza ibi bimenyetso bikomeye:
Kandi ushake ubufasha niba unaniwe, uhangayitse, cyangwa urakaye kubera ukurira. Ibyo byiyumvo ni ibisanzwe, kandi umuganga wawe ashobora kukubera umufasha.
Nubwo umwana uwo ari we wese ashobora kurwara ese, hari ibintu bimwe na bimwe bishobora kongera ibyago. Kumenya ibi bintu bishobora kugufasha kwitegura no gushaka ubufasha hakiri kare.
Ni ingenzi kwibuka ko kugira ibi bintu ntibihamya ko umwana wawe azagira ese. Abana benshi bafite ibyago byinshi ntibagira ese, abandi badafite ibyago barayirwara.
Ese ubwayo ntigira ingaruka mbi ku mwana wawe mu gihe kirekire, ariko umunaniro wo kuyirwanya ushobora kugira ingaruka ku muryango wose. Kumenya izi ngaruka bishobora kugufasha gushaka ubufasha igihe ukenewe.
Ku bana, ingaruka ni nke ariko zishobora kuba:
Ku babyeyi n’imiryango, ingaruka zishobora kuba zikomeye:
Ibuka ko izi ngaruka zishobora kwirindwa ubufasha n’ubumenyi bikwiye. Ntugatinye gusaba ubufasha ku muryango, inshuti, cyangwa abaganga.
Kumenya ese bisobanura gukuraho izindi mpamvu z’ukurira gukabije aho gukora ibizamini byihariye. Muganga wawe azibanda ku buryo umwana wawe arira n’ubuzima bwe muri rusange.
Mu gihe cy’isuzumwa, muganga wawe azakubaza ku myitwarire yo kurira kw’umwana wawe, harimo igihe itangira, igihe iramara, n’icyo kiba cyayiteye cyangwa kikayihumuriza. Azashaka kandi kumenya ibijyanye n’ibiryo, ibitotsi, n’ibindi bimenyetso wabonye.
Isuzumwa ry’umubiri rizareba ibimenyetso by’uburwayi, imvune, cyangwa ibibazo bishobora gutera ububabare. Muganga wawe ashobora gukanda mu nda y’umwana wawe kugira ngo arebe ibibazo by’inda.
Mu bihe byinshi, nta bizamini byongeyeho bikenewe niba umwana wawe muzima kandi akura neza. Gake, muganga wawe ashobora kugusaba ibizamini nk’iby’inkari cyangwa amashusho niba akeka ko hari ikibazo cy’ubuzima.
Nta muti w’ese, ariko hari uburyo bwinshi bushobora guhumuriza umwana wawe no koroshya iki gihe. Inkuru nziza ni uko ese izakira ubwayo uko umubiri w’umwana wawe ukura.
Dore uburyo bwemewe n’ubushakashatsi bushobora gufasha:
Ku babyeyi bonsa, gukuraho amata cyangwa ibindi bintu bishobora gutera allergie mu mirire yawe bishobora gufasha mu bihe bimwe na bimwe. Niba utanga amata y’ifu, muganga wawe ashobora kugusaba kugerageza andi mata y’ifu.
Bamwe mu babyeyi basanga gutwara umwana wabo mu gikapu cyangwa mu ntoki mu gihe cyo guhangayika bimuhumuriza. Ikintu nyamukuru ni ukugerageza uburyo butandukanye no kureba icyakora ku mwana wawe.
Kwitwara mu rugo bisaba kwihangana, gukomeza, no kwita ku buzima bwawe. Ibuka ko icyakora umunsi umwe gishobora kudakora undi, bityo kugira uburyo bwinshi mu buryo bwawe ni ingenzi.
Tegura gahunda yo guhumuriza ushobora gukoresha buri gihe mu gihe cyo kurira. Ibi bishobora kuba birimo kugabanya umucyo, gukina umuziki utuje, no gufata umwana wawe mu buryo runaka.
Fata akaruhuko igihe ukenewe. Shyira umwana wawe ahantu hatekanye nka buriri bwe hanyuma ugende iminota mike niba unaniwe. Ni byiza guha umwana wawe umwanya wo kurira gato mu gihe witegura.
Saba ubufasha ku muryango n’inshuti. Kugira undi muntu ufata kandi akahumuriza umwana wawe biguha amahirwe yo kuruhuka no gusubiramo imbaraga. Ababyeyi benshi basanga umwana wabo akenshi ahumura neza n’undi muntu.
Andika igihe umwana wawe arira kugira ngo umenye uko arira. Ibi bishobora kugufasha kumenya icyabiteye no kwitegura igihe gikomeye cy’umunsi.
Kwitwara neza mu gihe ugiye kwa muganga bizafasha muganga wawe kumva neza ibibazo by’umwana wawe no gutanga ubufasha bukwiye. Andika ibyo wabonye mbere kugira ngo utibagiwe amakuru y’ingenzi.
Kora urutonde rw’ukuntu umwana wawe arira mu byumweru byibuze kimwe mbere yo kujya kwa muganga. Andika igihe ukurira gutangira, igihe iramara, n’icyo kiba cyayiteye cyangwa kikayihumuriza.
Tegura urutonde rw’ibibazo bijyanye n’ibyo uhangayikishijwe. Ushobora kwibaza ku guhindura ibiryo, uburyo bwo kuryama, cyangwa igihe wakwitega ko bizakira.
Zana amakuru yerekeye ibiryo n’ibitotsi by’umwana wawe, harimo uko arya n’uko akenshi akanguka nijoro. Vuga kandi imiti cyangwa ibindi bintu ubwanyu cyangwa umwana wawe mufata.
Ntugatinye kuvuga uko ese igira ingaruka ku buzima bwawe bwo mu mutwe n’ubuzima bw’umuryango wawe. Muganga wawe ashobora gutanga ubufasha n’ubumenyi kugira ngo uhangane n’iki kibazo.
Ikintu cy’ingenzi cyo kwibuka ni uko ese ari igihe gito kandi umwana wawe azayikira. Nubwo bigaragara nk’ibidashira igihe urimo, abana benshi bagaragaza iterambere ry’ingenzi mu mezi 3-4.
Ese ntibivuze ko ukora ikintu kibisha nk’umubyeyi. Ntiterwa n’uburere bubi cyangwa ikintu wari warabujije. Bamwe mu bana bagira uburyo bworoshye bwo gukora imikorere y’ubwonko.
Ibanda ku kwita kuri wowe ndetse n’umwana wawe. Umubyeyi utuje, aruhutse, ni we ushobora guhumuriza umwana ufite ese. Emerera ubufasha igihe butangwa kandi ntutinye gusaba ubufasha igihe ukenewe.
Ibuka ko iki gihe kizashira, kandi umwana wawe azakura neza nubwo afite ese. Ababyeyi benshi basanga abana bari barwaye ese baba abana beza kandi boroshye iyo bakize.
Oya, ese ntagira ingaruka ku iterambere cyangwa ku buzima bw’umwana mu gihe kirekire. Abana bari barwaye ese bakura neza kandi bakaba abana bazima kandi bishimye. Ukurira gukabije ni igihe gito kandi ntibigaragaza ikibazo cy’ubwonko cyangwa iterambere ry’ubwonko.
Nta buryo bwemewe bwo kwirinda ese kuko tutabasha gusobanukirwa neza icyayiteye. Ariko, kugira ahantu hatuje, gukurikiza gahunda, no gucunga umunaniro wawe mu gihe cyo gutwita bishobora kugabanya ibyago. Ibuka ko ese ishobora kuba ku mwana uwo ari we wese uko uburere bwo ari bwo bwose.
Vugana na muganga wawe mbere yo guhindura ikintu icyo ari cyo cyose. Bamwe mu bana bafite ese bashobora kugira akamaro mu gukuraho amata mu mirire ya nyina cyangwa guhindura amata y’ifu, ariko ibi ntibikora kuri bose. Muganga wawe ashobora kugufasha kumenya niba guhindura imirire ari ngombwa hashingiwe ku bimenyetso by’umwana wawe.
Ukurira kwa ese bisanzwe bikurikira uburyo buteganijwe kandi bibaho ku bana bazima bararya kandi barara neza hagati y’igihe cyo kurira. Hamagara muganga wawe niba umwana wawe afite umuriro, adafata ibiryo neza, agaragara nk’unaniwe, cyangwa niba ukurira kumvikana bitandukanye n’ukurira kw’ese. Izera ibyiyumvo byawe-umenya umwana wawe kurusha undi.
Shyira umwana wawe ahantu hatekanye ako kanya hanyuma ugende kugira ngo utuje. Hamagara inshuti, umuryango, cyangwa muganga wawe ako kanya. Ibyo byiyumvo ni byinshi kurusha uko wabitekereza, kandi gushaka ubufasha ni byo bikwiye gukora. Tekereza ku kuvugana n’umuryango ushyigikira ababyeyi nyuma yo kubyara kugira ngo ubone ubufasha n’ubujyanama.