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Ubuthakathaka bokufuna ubulili kwabesifazane kusho ukuba nomuzwa omncane noma ongenalutho lokuthandana noma ukusondelana. Lesi simo, esaziwa ngokuthi yi-hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD) ngokwelapha, sithinta abesifazane abaningi ezinyathelweni ezahlukene zokuphila futhi singazizwa siyimfihlo futhi sikhathaza kakhulu.
Awuwedwa uma uqaphele ukushintsha ekufuneni kwakho ubulili. Ukufuna ubulili kuyahlukahluka ngokwemvelo phakathi nokuphila ngenxa yamahomoni, ukucindezeleka, ubuhlobo, nokushintsha kwempilo. Ukuqonda ukuthi kwenzekani kungakusiza uzizwe ukhulu ngokukubhekana nakho.
Isimpawu esiyinhloko iwukuba nomuzwa omncane noma ongenalutho wokuthanda ubulili isikhathi eside. Lokhu kudlula ukwehla okungekho sikhathini ekufuneni okuhlangenwe nakho yiwo wonke umuntu ngezikhathi ezithile.
Nazi izimpawu eziyinhloko ezingabonisa ubuthakathaka bokufuna ubulili:
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi okuyinto "evamile" kuyahlukahluka kakhulu kumuntu nomuntu. Into ebalulekile ukuthi lesi shintsho sikubangela ukukhathazeka noma sithinta ubuhlobo bakho nokuphulukela kwakho konke.
Ubuthakathaka bokufuna ubulili bungabangelwa ukuxubana okuyinkimbinkimbi kwezinto zokwenyama, zomzwelo, nezokuphila. Umzimba wakho nomqondo wakho usebenza ndawonye uma kuziwa ekufuneni ubulili, ngakho-ke ukushintsha kunoma yiliphi izingxenye kungathinta ukufuna kwakho ukusondelana.
Ake siqonde izimbangela ezivamile:
Amahomoni adlala indima ebalulekile enkanukweni yobulili. Amazinga e-estrogen ne-testosterone aguquka ngokwemvelo kulo lonke isikhathi sesikhathi sakho sokuba nesikhathi, ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, ngemva kokubeletha, nangesikhathi se-menopause.
Lezi zinguquko zamahomoni zivamile ngokuphelele, yize zingase zizwe zikhungathekisa. Abesifazane abaningi bathola ukuthi isifiso sabo sibuyela njengoba amazinga e-homoni eqina noma ngokwelashwa okufanele.
Izimo ezithile zezempilo nemithi ingathinta ngokuqondile isifiso sakho sobulili. Umzimba wakho udinga amandla nokugeleza kwegazi okuhle ngentshisekelo yobulili, ngakho noma yini ethonya impilo yakho yonke ingathinta i-libido yakho.
Uma ucindezeleka ukuthi imithi ithinta isifiso sakho, ungalokothi uyeke ukuyithatha ngaphandle kokubonisana nodokotela wakho kuqala. Bangase bakwazi ukulungisa ukwelashwa kwakho noma baphakamise ezinye izinto.
Isimo sakho sengqondo nemizwa sithinta kakhulu isifiso sobulili. Ukuqina, ukukhathazeka, nokucindezeleka kungadala isiphelo lapho isimo sengqondo esiphungukile siholela ekunciphiseni intshisekelo ebulilini, okubese kuthinta ubudlelwane bakho nesimo sengqondo.
Lezi zinto zomzwelo ziyavumeleka futhi zingangaphathwa njengezizathu zokwenyama. Ukusebenza nodokotela oqeqeshwe emphakathini wezempilo yocansi kungakunika ukwesekwa okuyigugu neqhinga.
Ukuhlangenwe nakho kobudlelwane bakho kuchaphazela ngokuqondile isifiso socansi. Ukuzizwa uxhumene ngokomzwelo, uphephile, futhi ubalulekile kumlingani wakho kudala isisekelo sokuthanda ngokwenyama.
Izinkinga zobudlelwane ngokuvamile yizona eziphatheka kalula kakhulu zokwehla kokushayela ucansi. Ukwelashwa ngamaqembu noma ukwelashwa kocansi kungakusiza ukwakha kabusha ubuthakathaka nokuxhumana.
Imikhuba yakho yansuku zonke nendawo yakho yokuhlala ichaphazela kakhulu amandla akho ocwansi nentshisekelo. Impilo yanamuhla ngokuvamile ayishiyi sikhathi esanele sokuphumula nokuxhumana okudingekayo isifiso socansi.
Izindaba ezinhle ukuthi izinto eziphathelene nokuziphatha kwansuku zonke zivame ukuba lula ukulungisa. Ukushintsha okuncane emikhonyeni yakho yansuku zonke kungenza umehluko omkhulu endleleni ozizwa ngayo ngawe kanye nobudlelwano obuseduze.
Kufanele ucabange ukuthintana nodokotela uma ukuntuleka kokuthanda ubulili kukubangela ukukhathazeka noma kuchaphazela ubudlelwano bakho. Ayikho ‘inani’ eliqondile lokufuna ubulili, kodwa uma ushintsho lukukhathaza, kufanele ukuxoxe ngalo nochwepheshe.
Nazi izimo ezithile lapho ukubonisana nodokotela kubaluleke kakhulu:
Khumbula, ukuxoxa ngempilo yobulili nodokotela kuyinto evamile futhi yeqotho. Baye bezwa konke lokhu ngaphambili futhi bafuna ukukusiza uzizwe ukhulu. Uma uzizwa ungakhululekile nodokotela wakho wamanje, cabanga ukuthola ochwepheshe wezokwelapha ubulili noma impilo yabesifazane.
Izinto eziningi zingandisa amathuba okuhlushwa yisifiso esincane sobulili. Ukuqonda lezi zinto ezingaholela ekubeni nesifiso esincane sobulili kungakusiza ubone izindlela futhi uthathe izinyathelo zokuvikela uma kungenzeka.
Ake sibheke izinto ezivame ukubangela lesi simo:
Ukuba nenye noma ngaphezulu yezingozi akusho ukuthi uzobhekana ngokuqinisekile nokulahlekelwa ukunxanela ubulili. Lezi zici zanda nje ithuba, futhi eziningi zingaguqulwa ngokushintsha indlela yokuphila noma ukwelashwa kwezokwelapha.
Nakuba ukunxanela ubulili okuphansi kungabi yingozi empilweni yakho yomzimba, kungathinta kakhulu inhlalakahle yakho yozwela nobuhlobo bakho. Ukuqonda lezi zinhlanganisela ezingaba khona kungakukhuthaza ukuba ufuna usizo uma kudingeka.
Izinhlanganisela ezivamile kakhulu zihlanganisa:
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi lezi zinkinga zivame ukuvimbeka uma kunakekelwa ngokushesha. Abantu abaningi abashadile bangasebenzisana nezinselele zobulili ngokusekelwa okuhle nokuphathwa kahle.
Nakuba ungakwazi ukuvimba zonke izimbangela zokwehla kwamandla okuya ocansini, ungathatha izinyathelo zokugcina impilo yakho yobulili futhi unciphise ingozi yakho. Ukuvimbela kugxile ekugcineni impilo yakho yomzimba nengqondo.
Nawa amasu afakazelwe esayensi angakusiza:
Khumbula, ukuvimbela kuwukwakha isisekelo sobulili obuphilile ekuphileni kwakho konke. Ngisho nemizamo emincane, eqhubekayo ingenza umehluko omkhulu ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Ukuthola ukuntuleka kokuthanda ubulili kuhilela ukuhlolwa okubanzi kwezempilo yakho yomzimba, impilo yakho yozwela, nezici zobudlelwano. Udokotela wakho uzofuna ukuqonda isimo sakho esiyingqayizivele ukuze athole izimbangela eziyinhloko.
Inqubo yokuxilonga ngokuvamile ihlanganisa:
Udokotela wakho uzobuza imibuzo emininingi mayelana nezimpawu zakho, umlando wezokwelapha, imithi, nendlela yokuphila. Le ngxoxo ikusiza ukuthola izimbangela ezingaba khona zomzimba nezici eziyingozi.
Izivivinyo zegazi zingaveza ukungalingani kwamahomoni noma ezinye izimo zezokwelapha eziqeda ukunxanela kwakho ubulili. Lezi zivivinyo zisiza ukukhipha izimbangela zomzimba ezilashwa.
Udokotela wakho angase abuze ngempilo yakho yengqondo, amazinga okucindezeleka, kanye nokwaneliseka kobuhlobo. Lokhu kusiza ukuthola izici zozwela ezifaka isandla ekunciphiseni ukunxanela ubulili.
Inkambiso yokuxilonga ibambisene, nobuqotho bakho ngezimpawu nezinkathazo kusiza udokotela wakho ukuba anikeze ukunakekelwa okuhle kakhulu. Unganqikazi ukubuza imibuzo noma ucele ukuchazwa nganoma yisiphi isigaba sokuhlolwa.
Ukwelashwa kokungabi namandla okuya ocansini kuhluke kakhulu futhi kuvame ukubandakanya ukubhekana nezici eziningi ngesikhathi esisodwa. Udokotela wakho uzosebenza nawe ukudala uhlelo lokwelapha olusekelwe ezahlwini eziyisisekelo ezitholakele ngesikhathi sokuhlolwa kwakho.
Nawa amaqhinga akhiqiza ukwelapha:
Uma ukungalingani kwamahomoni kuhlanganyela ekungabikho kwesifiso sakho socansi, ukwelashwa kokufakwa kwamahomoni kungasiza ekuvuseleleni isifiso sakho socansi. Le ndlela isebenza kakhulu kwabesifazane ababhekana nezinguquko ezihlobene ne-menopause.
Ukwelashwa kwamahomoni akulungele wonke umuntu, futhi udokotela wakho uzokucabangela ngokucophelela umlando wakho wezempilo nezici ezingozi ngaphambi kokuncoma le ndlela.
Uma imithi yakho yamanje ithonya isifiso sakho socansi, udokotela wakho angancoma ezinye izinto noma ukuguqulwa. Ungalokothi uyeke ukuthatha imithi eyalwe ngaphandle kokunakekelwa kwezokwelapha.
Kunezinhlobo ezithile zemithi ezivunyelwe ukwelapha ukunqamuka kwesifiso sobulili kwabesifazane. Lezi zisebenza ngokuthinta amakhemikhali ebuchosheni ahilelekile esifisweni sobulili.
Le mithi inezidingo ezithile nemiphumela emibi, ngakho-ke ayifaneleki kuwo wonke umuntu. Udokotela wakho uzohlola ngokucophelela ukuthi ungumuntu ofanele yini.
Ukwelashwa kungaba nomphumela omkhulu ekuxazululeni izinto ezingokomzwelo nezobuhlobo ezithinta isifiso sakho sobulili. Abesifazane abaningi bathola le ndlela ikusiza kakhulu kunokusebenzisa imithi kuphela.
Ukwenza izinguquko endleleni yakho yansuku zonke kanye nezindlela zokunakekela wena ngokuvamile kuholela ekwenzeni kahle kakhulu kwesifiso sobulili. Lezi zinguquko zisekela impilo yakho yonke kanye namandla akho.
Ukwelashwa kuvame ukubandakanya ukusebenzisa izindlela eziningi ukuze kuzuzwe imiphumela emihle. Bekezela ngenqubo, njengoba kungase kudingeke isikhathi ukuthola ukuxuba okulungile okusebenza ngawe.
Kunezinto eziningi ongenza ekhaya ukuze usekele impilo yakho yobulili futhi wenze kube lula ukwandisa isifiso sakho sobulili. Lezi zindlela zokunakekela kwakho ziyasebenza kangcono uma zisetshenziswa kanye nokwelashwa kwabasebenza kwezokwelapha, hhayi njengendlela yokusika.
Nazi izindlela ezisekelwe ebufakazini zokuphatha ekhaya:
Abesifazane abathile bathola izithasiselo ezithile ziwusizo, yize ubufakazi besayensi bufinyelele. Hlala uxoxa ngezithasiselo nodokotela wakho ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukuzisebenzisa.
Khumbula, lokho okusebenzelayo komunye umuntu kungase kungasebenzi komunye. Bekezela ngawe njengoba uhlola izindlela ezahlukene, futhi ungangabazi ukufuna usizo lochwepheshe uma izindlela zokwelapha zasekhaya azanele.
Ukulungiselela i-aphoyintimenti yakho mayelana nokunciphisa isifiso sobulili kungakusiza ukuthi uthole okuningi kakhulu ekuhambeleni kwakho. Abesifazane abaningi bazizwa bexakekile bexoxa ngempilo yocansi, kodwa khumbula ukuthi udokotela wakho ulapho ukuze akusize ngaphandle kokwahlulela.
Nawa amaqhinga okulungiselela kahle:
Khumbula, udokotela wakho uke wezwa lezi zinkathazo izikhathi eziningi ngaphambili. Ukuba ovulekile noqotho ngezimpawu zakho nezinkathazo kuzomsiza ukuba anikeze ukunakekelwa okungcono kakhulu esimweni sakho.
Ukwehla kokuthanda ubulili kwabesifazane kuyisimo esivamile nesiphatheka esithinta abesifazane abaningi ezinyathelweni ezahlukene zokuphila. Into ebaluleke kakhulu okumele uyiqonde ukuthi awuphukile, futhi ayikho "indlela evamile" yokuthanda ubulili ehambisana nabo bonke abantu.
Impilo yakho yobulili iyisigaba esibalulekile sokuphulukela kwakho konke. Uma ukungathandeki ubulili kukubangela ukukhathazeka noma kuthinta ubuhlobo bakho, kufanele uhlole izinketho zokwelashwa. Abesifazane abaningi babona ukuthuthuka okukhulu ngokuhlanganiswa okulungile kokunakekelwa kwezokwelapha, ukushintsha indlela yokuphila, nokwesekwa ngokomzwelo.
Izinto eziyinhloko okumele uzikhumbule yilezi:
Ungavumeli ihlazo likuvimbe ekufuneni usizo. Umhlinzeki wakho wezempilo ulapho ukusekela ngaphandle kokwahlulela, futhi ukubhekana nale nkinga kungathuthukisa kakhulu ikhwalithi yokuphila nobuhlobo bakho.
Yebo, kuyinto evamile ngokuphelele ukuthi isifiso sobulili sibe yinto eguqukayo njengoba ukhula. Ukushintsha kwamahomoni phakathi ne-perimenopause ne-menopause kuvame ukubangela ukungathandeki ubulili, kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele ukwamukele uma kukukhathaza. Izindlela zokwelapha eziningi ezisebenzayo zingasiza ekuvuseleleni isifiso sobulili kunoma iyiphi iminyaka.
Ukuguquka okuhambisana nobudala kuya kancane kancane futhi kuvame ukuphathwa ngokulungisa indlela yokuphila, ukwelashwa kwamahomoni, noma ezinye izindlela zokwelapha. Okubalulekile ukuthi ingabe lokho kuququka kukubangela ukukhathazeka noma izinkinga zobuhlobo.
Yebo, ukuphathwa kwamahomoni okuvimbela ukukhulelwa kungathinta isifiso socansi kwabesifazane abathile. Amaphilisi okuvimbela ukukhulelwa anganciphisa amazinga e-testosterone, okunganciphisa i-libido. Noma kunjalo, lokhu akuwenzeki kubo bonke, futhi umphumela uvame ukuthuthuka ngemva kwezinyanga ezimbalwa zokusetshenziswa.
Uma ucindezeleka ukuthi ukuphathwa kwakho okuvimbela ukukhulelwa kuthinta isifiso sakho socansi, xoxa nodokotela wakho ngezinye izinketho. Kunezinhlobo eziningi ezahlukene nezindlela ezingenawo amahomoni ezingase zikusebenzele kangcono.
Abesifazane abaningi bayabona ukuthuthuka kwesifiso socansi ngemva kokuphela kwesikhathi sokuya esikhathini, ikakhulukazi ngokwelashwa okufanele. Ngenkathi ukuguquka kwamahomoni phakathi kokuphela kwesikhathi sokuya esikhathini kuvamise ukunciphisa i-libido ekuqaleni, leli qophelo letha inkululeko ekukhathazekeni ngokukhulelwa futhi ngokuvamile kuncishisa ukucindezeleka okuvela emisebenzini yokunakekela izingane.
Ukuphathwa kwamahomoni, ukuguqula indlela yokuphila, nokwenza kahle ukuxhumana nabalingani kungasiza kakhulu ekuvuseleleni isithakazelo socansi phakathi nangemva kokuphela kwesikhathi sokuya esikhathini. Isipiliyoni sabesifazane ngamunye sihlukile, ngakho-ke sisebenzisana nodokotela wakho ukuthola okusebenza kuwe.
Isikhathi sokuthuthuka sihluka kakhulu kuye ngezimbangela eziyisisekelo nezindlela zokwelapha ezisetshenziswayo. Ukuguqula indlela yokuphila njengokujima nokuncipha kokucindezeleka kungabonisa izinzuzo phakathi nezinsuku ezimbalwa kuya ezinyangeni. Ukuphathwa kwamahomoni kuvame ukuthatha izinyanga ezingu-2-3 ukuze kubonise imiphumela ephelele.
Izindlela zokwelapha ezingokwengqondo njengokuya kubachwepheshe kungathatha izinyanga eziningi ukuze kubonise ukuthuthuka okukhulu, kodwa abesifazane abaningi baphawula ukuguquka okuthile phakathi kwezifundo zokuqala. Bekezela nenqubo futhi ugcine ukuxhumana okuvulekile neqembu lakho lokunakekelwa kwezempilo mayelana nokuqhubeka kwakho.
Kuyintokozo ukuzizwa ukhathazekile noma ulahliwe uma umlingani wakho enenkinga yokuntengantenga, kodwa khumbula ukuthi le nkinga ayikuthinta wena ngqo. Ukwehla kokuthanda ucansi kunamabanga amaningi, amaningi awo angena lutho nokuthokozela ubuhlobo noma ukukutshela.
Indlela engcono kakhulu iwukusekela nokuqonda ngenkathi ukhuthaza umlingani wakho ukuba akhulume nodokotela. Ukwelashwa kwabantu abashadile kungakusiza nobabili ukuba nilwe lolu banga ndawonye futhi nilondoloze ubuseduze ngezindlela ezahlukene ngenkathi nilungisa izinkinga eziyinhloko.
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